It seems that many folks have a somewhat unrealistic impression of what a soul mate or twin flame connection will or should be….with visions or expectations of an all encompassing ideal partner that grabs their hand, gives them a twirl or two, and then they walk away into a sunset on a picturesque evening. People expect this bubble love that is never ending, and feel as though they can share every thought with their partner and all is so serene…
Well, let me say this is absolutely NOT how this rolls, my friends. In fact, when you actually encounter potentially romantic soul mate connections – and particularly in the case of an authentic twin flame connection – things can get rather down and dirty…and quickly. However, it is so important to remember that these connections need not be romantic at all but rather an intense friendship that aids you on your Path to Enlightenment. They may be either transient or permanent fixtures in your life on the earthly plane – part of your voyage together is allowing what it is to manifest.
Nothing is more challenging than meeting your mirror, and when I say mirror, I mean you will see not only the BEST in that person, but also their worst. And accepting those aspects of yourself while accepting them in your connection is not any walk in the park…and in fact, once this occurs, your partner is likely to run like a bat out of hell from you! As SoulEntity speaks of in “Follow the Stranger“, the ‘Negative Sentience’ is always trying to break into the minds of true soul mates.
Why Soul Mates Run…and 1 Simple Way to Reconnect (or Not)
Meeting a twin flame or intense soul mate is like the Clash of the Titans. What else can two parts of a whole do when perfect strangers have a chance encounter and they somehow see EVERYTHING? There are two things that can happen here: you can acknowledge what you see and go with the connection, or you can keep what you see to yourself. Either way, you are still going to butt heads, so chose your path on this journey wisely.
DOUBTS & FEARS: Strong energetic connections can be rather scary, and running is an instinctual response that can lead the pair into doubting if their union is ‘real’. While feeling so drawn in to someone, you also feel fear. Fear of rejection, fear of failure, fear of making a mistake that will drive them away. Essentially, all of these fears are projected onto your partner and this is why they will RUN…you may be the runner or the one in fear or both – likely both of you will be doing both if it’s a true twin flame connection.
LABELS: As with most intense connections, the tendency to want to slap a label on someone as your BFF or your girlfriend, etc. can be very tempting. However, rather than that ultimately serving as an ‘acknowledgment’ this can set you up for future disappointment if the associated expectations of that label aren’t met.
EXPECTATIONS: Everyone is born into a world filled with expectations. Heck, parents make ‘big plans’ for their unborn – setting out expectations of them before they even exit the womb! These expectations will bombard you throughout life if you allow them to, and this is a part of the programming of society. One of the greatest downfalls in relationships of any kind is the expectation of another to reciprocate your feelings or live up to your expectations in any fashion.
JUDGEMENTS: One of the most important parts of living in the NOW is freeing yourself from judgments in all aspects of your life; hence, no matter where your troubles lie with your soul mate, you’d do yourself a favor by taking a bit of time and space rather than being judgmental of them. Remember, they are likely reflecting any energy that YOU are projecting onto THEM, and simple compassion can send out more harmonic vibrations that can ultimately heal issues, fears, and wounds that tempt judgment.
About that Miraculous Solution for Reconnecting
Well, it’s not miraculous and you may or may not reconnect in the way you want (but that’s still holding onto expectations!). However, you can resolve and avoid many unnecessary conflicts with your soul mate connections or twin flame by avoiding all of the above! Letting go of the labels, doubts, judgments, and expectations allow you to become comfortable with the changes and he challenges as you will live more in the present, raising your vibrations, and increasing your manifestation abilities to gain what is intended from the connection.
Written by Stephanie Lucas of www.quantumstones.com